Wednesday, 27 May 2009

Do I need to tell you I have writer's block?

I haven't posted in a week.

I don't know what to write.

I guess I should tell you all about my amazing weekend with Virtual Crush (can he still be "Virtual" now that he's oh so dreamily real?) I've been hestitating because I may or may not have been really intoxicated the first night he was in town and told him about my blog.

I had planned to do this at some point in the weekend because I really do believe that honesty is super important in a relationship. But, since I was tipsy, I just spilled the whole thing, fake name and all. Now, he may or may not be reading it, which kind of makes me feel like I can't gush or confess too much. Not that I would, mind you (I totally would!)

Anyway, I'm going to make an attempt to write about it later tonight. I cross my heart.

I guess the other thing that's been stopping me from writing is this feeling I've been overwhelmed with this week like "Who really cares about your life, SG? You don't have a single interesting thing to say." We all go through this as bloggers, right?

I mean, you all must find some mild amusement in my posts to keep coming back. And I love you all for it. Truly. Madly. Deeply.

And, I really enjoy reading about all of you, too. So why do I feel this way? I guess I need to push through it. Or is it better to just wait for something to come along to write about?

I should just be honest that there's lots going on in my life right now, but for the first time since starting this I kind of want to protect it instead of putting it out there and making fun of it, like I would if, say, it was just me and Martini drinking too much tequila and falling down. Maybe this will go away with time.

For those of you who have had this problem -- what did you do? I don't want my blog to go away. But what the fuck am I supposed to write about if I censor out a huge portion of my life?

Why did no one warn me about this ... wait, you did.

How does Singlegrrrl become happilyinarelationshipgrrrl?


  1. You don't have to tell the world EVERYTHING about your blog...that is the beauty of this, you get to pick and choose and everyone will still love you :)

  2. Lucky (or unlucky) for me, my love life has fallen off a cliff since I started my blog last summer. So, I haven't had to face this sitch yet. But I can't wait to see how you do (it will be good training for when I find a boyfriend in approximately 17 years). :)

  3. I'm sort of new to all this too (so I don't really know what I'm talking about, but I'm going to say some crap anyway). So I just tell what I tell and don't tell what I don't tell. The thing is...your blog is your blog. And if VC likes you, he'll probably be able to deal with it. At least, eventually. I can understand not wanting to put a bunch of gushy crap out there right away, though.

    Just take baby steps and only write what you feel comfortable writing. Because if you're not enjoying it and it's stressing you, what's the point?

    I found out last month that my aunt reads my blog. It was really hard for me to write in the same way. But then I finally just told myself, "Okay, she knew what she was getting into. She doesn't have to read it if it makes her uncomfy." It's different with a relationship situation, though. I know. You'll figure it out.

  4. Here's my take -- some blogs are a virtual diary, which take a lot of balls to be that uncensored. And some blogs cater to the readers, scripting humorous or dramatic stories that may or may not be about their personal life to garner feedback. So if you feel like keeping some of your personal stories private, maybe you can find something else in the world to entertain the world with? Let's be honest, there's no shortage of amusement in anyone's daily life.

  5. I don't know what to suggest here b/c my blog has always been open and never anon. I know my friends/family read it but at the same time I don't feel the need to censor myself b/c I'm not a huge one to keep things to myself anyway. Although, if you notice very rarely does my blog get very deep/emotional/etc. I tend to keep it light hearted and fun and just update on what is going on in my/our lives and cut out the boring stuff (b/c no one really cares about that stuff anyway right?) But one thing I can tell you is that we keep coming back to your blog b/c you entertain us. You make us think, laugh, reminisce, etc. We like your blog for you. So whatever you do, don't keep doing it if it's not making you happy, b/c then really, what's the point?

  6. If I was in your situation I would just worry about what Vistual Crush thought about his girrrl writting about him. If hes cool with it maybe you will feel better about writing more? Or maybe you are so in love that you want to hold on to it. I dont know if taht makes sense to anyone else, but when I started out with hubby I wouldnt tell anyone anything about him or us, I was simply happy and smiling all the time. I guess I didnt want anyone spoiling my joy, telling me it all was too good to be true or finding faults on him or something.
    Its a tricky situation. My choice would be to just let time pass and see what happens, dont force your writing, your faithfull readers will always be with you. :)

  7. I agree with Martini. You can write about other stuff that you feel passionately about - and that, therefore, will be entertaining - without it always being about your personal life. I mean, I LOVE hearing about your personal life, but I'm sure you have a lot of other great things to write about, too.
    Case in point? Reading the newstoday I came up with about 4 interesting articles I wanted to blog about. And they would probably be funny blog posts, too, because mostly I wanted to make fun of the articles and/or the people in them. Like the "Real Housewives of New Jersey."

    I'm too lazy to do it, though.
    But maybe you could? :)

  8. So you're coming to MN again but I won't be here AGAIN!!! And this time it is for the MS150. It sounds like I'm obsessed w/ MS stuff but really I usually only do 1 thing a year. This year is just different due to schedule mix ups. Anyway, it totally sucks that I'm going to miss your visit again b/c I'd really love to meet you out for drinks... Maybe again sometime soon? Since VC lives up here and all. :)

  9. Cristina - And I will love you!

    Always a Bridesmaid - 17 years! That's like 50 more bridesmaid dress. Eek.

    Shine - thanks. I don't think anyone in my family reads. I think it would be tougher to censor out my heavy drinking than my ooey gooey feeling for the guy.

    Martini - you're right. My life is hilarious. Plenty of material there. Like the time I had that ingrown hair ...

    Kellie -- You're one of my favorite bloggers because you're so fearless and open. The pictures of you passed out -- priceless. I aspire to be more like you.

    pizzacravings -- I know what you mean. I think I'm in that place right now.

    Frenchie -- thanks for the advice. I guess maybe I need to watch more TV or pay attention to the rest of the world. Dammit.

    And Kellie -- AGAIN. Seriously, what is with you and MS? You're such a GD do-gooder. Knock it off already. Come drink with me. :)

  10. I guess I should say I write so people read it, but to be honest, I just write to get it off my chest. I read your blog because it is damn funny and things like that never happen to me :) So keep writing girl... whatever the reason may be :)